For women who are in long-distance romantic relationships, international, cross-cultural couples and families
Marriage and Family Therapist, John Gottman’s method
Elena Kabasser
Elena Kabasser
Who I can be helpful for:
Couples who are in a long-distance romantic relationship
International and cross cultural couples who are preparing for a joint family life
Women in the period of adaptation to a new place of residence in a new cultural environment
International stepfamilies (when there are children from previous marriages) on the way to family harmony
Women on the way to their self-worth and life harmony
Topics I work with
Topics I work with
With the help of diagnostic questionnaires I have developed, I will determine the characteristics of your couple and the difficulties that you may encounter in a relationship of this kind. I will build further support based on the strengths of each of the partners and strengths of your couple, which will help you to positively go through the stage of a long-distance relationship.
I will help you to make a smoother transition from a "permanent honeymoon" to everyday life, where the period of idealization of the partner ends and the couple faces differences in each other's mentality, culture and habits.
An international stepfamily is a family in which spouses have different national, cultural roots, were born and lived in different countries until the start of a joint family life, while one or both spouses have a child / children from previous marriage / relationship. The dynamics of relationships in it is totally different from the primary family (when children live with their biological parents).
I will inform you about the relationship dynamics in such a family and help to reduce the overall level of stress. Together we will make a list of gentle rules for your family and learn how to cope with the "traps" on the way to a harmonious life together in such a special family structure.
I will inform you about the relationship dynamics in such a family and help to reduce the overall level of stress. Together we will make a list of gentle rules for your family and learn how to cope with the "traps" on the way to a harmonious life together in such a special family structure.
I will help you to end the relationship as gently as possible and maintain constructive interaction between parents reducing the level of stress for children and to help them to go through the variety of emotions associated with this event.
You can contact me with any individual request. I will support you at any stage of your life!.
With the help of diagnostic questionnaires I have developed, I will determine the characteristics of your couple and the difficulties that you may encounter in a relationship of this kind. I will build further support based on the strengths of each of the partners and strengths of your couple, which will help you to positively go through the stage of a long-distance relationship.
I will help you to make a smoother transition from a "permanent honeymoon" to everyday life, where the period of idealization of the partner ends and the couple faces differences in each other's mentality, culture and habits.
An international stepfamily is a family in which spouses have different national, cultural roots, were born and lived in different countries until the start of a joint family life, while one or both spouses have a child / children from previous marriage / relationship. The dynamics of relationships in it is totally different from the primary family (when children live with their biological parents).
I will inform you about the relationship dynamics in such a family and help to reduce the overall level of stress. Together we will make a list of gentle rules for your family and learn how to cope with the "traps" on the way to a harmonious life together in such a special family structure.
I will inform you about the relationship dynamics in such a family and help to reduce the overall level of stress. Together we will make a list of gentle rules for your family and learn how to cope with the "traps" on the way to a harmonious life together in such a special family structure.
I will help you to end the relationship as gently as possible and maintain constructive interaction between parents reducing the level of stress for children and to help them to go through the variety of emotions associated with this event.
You can contact me with any individual request. I will support you at any stage of your life!
Why I think I can help you
I am an experienced psychologist, being in practice since 2018.
My practice is based on the results of research and scientific data.
I keep on studying long-distance romantic relationships, international couples and families on a daily basis: interacting with and supporting them in an online community in Telegram, collecting and analyzing data through developed by me questionnaires, interviewing couples and individuals and of course during counseling and therapy sessions with my clients.
I work both individually and with couples in Russian and English languages.
I work according to the method of John Gottman’s couples therapy. The tools that I offer to my clients have been tested on thousands of pairs and proven to be effective.
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Since 2020 I have been the psychologist of the GermanyTeam project, created during the 2020 global lockdown to help international couples to reunite.
I have two higher educations (as a teacher and psychologist) and I continue my professional development. For example, I am one of the few in Russia who has completed level 1 and level 2 couple’s therapy training according to John Gottman’s method at the Gottman Institute (USA). And I keep on moving.
You can find me in the list of family therapists on the Gottman Institute's website
You can find me in the list of family therapists on the Gottman Institute's website
I improve my counseling skills and professional knowledge on a regular basis
I have both professional and personal experience
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I myself have gone the path from long-distance romantic relationships to creating an international stepfamily, that’s why I understand the difficulties and concerns of my clients like no one else.
My interview in the magazine “IMENNO”
“Long-distance relationships are a phenomenon that becomes more and more common in the modern world with the development of Internet technologies and dating applications.
In the article you will learn about one of the first psychological studies in Russia on this topic. Elena Kabasser - a psychologist working with international couples and individuals who are in long-distance romantic relationships, and the author of a master's thesis on this topic ... "
In the article you will learn about one of the first psychological studies in Russia on this topic. Elena Kabasser - a psychologist working with international couples and individuals who are in long-distance romantic relationships, and the author of a master's thesis on this topic ... "
I am one of the first psychologists in Russia who professionally studies long-distance international romantic relationships
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I have conducted a scientific research on this topic and worked out the primary structure of the counseling program for such couples.
My colleague, family psychologist Maria Krivoshchapova-Demina, and I have written a book about long-distance romantic relationships and international couples «Shared love». The book is published by Russian leading publishing house EKSMO
My colleague, family psychologist Maria Krivoshchapova-Demina, and I have written a book about long-distance romantic relationships and international couples «Shared love». The book is published by Russian leading publishing house EKSMO
Being at a distance with a loved one is stressful in itself. But when this happens at times of unstable world situation and tense relations between your countries, the level of anxiety and fear can reach such limits that you can no longer cope with it on your own and professional support is highly recommended.
Basing on my research, numerous scientific data and personal experience, I will help to reduce your anxiety level and show that such type of relationships work and have the same chances for success as geographically close ones.
Basing on my research, numerous scientific data and personal experience, I will help to reduce your anxiety level and show that such type of relationships work and have the same chances for success as geographically close ones.
Cope with increased anxiety
I will support you in your transition from a long-distance relationship to life together. I will help you to get acquainted with the “real” images of each other and accept them without drama and panic. You will know how long it will take to go through this period, what “traps” there can be and how to deal with them
Successfully adapt to living together in a country which is new for one of the partners
The dynamics of relations in international stepfamilies is totally different from the dynamics of primary families (where children live with their biological parents), in addition the language barrier imposes more specifics.
Basing on my professional and personal experience, I will help you to create a family team and find compromises with your partner in your approaches to bringing-up children, in your cultural and religious traditions, characters and habits.
Basing on my professional and personal experience, I will help you to create a family team and find compromises with your partner in your approaches to bringing-up children, in your cultural and religious traditions, characters and habits.
Build harmonious relationships in an international stepfamily
During our meetings, we will develop and strengthen your self-worth. I will give powerful support to your movement towards your inner-being. First you will recall how to love and accept yourself, and then to accept the fact that we are all different and that's OK.
Believe in yourself and in the uniqueness of your relationship
Build healthy personal boundaries with respect for others; to make a psychological portrait of “that very man” and support you in the process of building healthy harmonious romantic relationships; I will be one of your supports in family and professional self-realization, in motherhood. If you go through break-up, I will support you on your way to а new life.
Strengthen your self-worth
I will help you to:
What others say about interactions with me
My clients, friends and people with whom I communicate see me as warm, sincere, sympathetic and caring. I am an empathetic person, but at the same time I do not consider myself either an ideal person or an ideal psychologist.
What others say about interactions with me
My clients, friends and people with whom I communicate see me as warm, sincere, sympathetic and caring. I am an empathetic person, but at the same time I do not consider myself either an ideal person or an ideal psychologist.
Consultations fees
Online / Offline, Moscow. 90 min
Couples
Online / Offline, Moscow.
60 min
60 min
Individually
Terms of consultation and payment
Terms of consultation and payment
If the consultation is canceled on my initiative, then at your discretion: we can reschedule the consultation to another date convenient for you, or you can receive a full refund of the prepayment.
By making a prepayment for the consultation, you agree to the above conditions.
I am grateful for our mutual respect and awareness of the value of a non-refundable resource - time!
By making a prepayment for the consultation, you agree to the above conditions.
I am grateful for our mutual respect and awareness of the value of a non-refundable resource - time!
Online consultation:
- Prepayment for a consultation - 100%, no less than 48 hours before the appointed time.
- Cancellation with a 100% refund or rescheduling of the consultation to another date is possible 24 hours before the scheduled time.
- If the consultation is canceled by a client less than 24 hours in advance, the payment is not refunded, but a single rescheduling of the consultation to another date is possible.
- If a client cancels an already rescheduled consultation, the consultation will no longer be rescheduled and payment will not be refunded.
Offline consultation:
- Prepayment for consultation - 100%, no less than four days before the appointed time.
- Cancellation with a 100% refund or rescheduling of the consultation to another date is possible 48 hours before the scheduled time.
- If the consultation is canceled by a client less than 48 hours, but no later than 24 hours before the appointed time, then a refund is possible, with a deduction of 1500 rubles for an unused office reservation or rescheduling the meeting to another date, with an additional payment of 1500 rubles for a new office reservation.
- If a client cancels an already rescheduled consultation again, the consultation will no longer be rescheduled and payment will not be refunded.
- If the consultation is canceled by a client less than 24 hours before the scheduled time, the consultation will not be rescheduled and payment will not be refunded.
No matter what stage of your relationship you are in right now, I will help you to get through it with the least amount of turbulence and stress, with maximum support, relying on your individual and your couple's strengths.
“With you, with your couple and relationship, everything is fine - this is just such a stage.
You can do it, you will be supported!
Thousands of couples have already successfully gone through this, and so can you!”
You can do it, you will be supported!
Thousands of couples have already successfully gone through this, and so can you!”
Sign up for our first consultation
During the consultation, we will determine how I can help you. We will develop the most effective strategy for our work, the format and conditions of interaction that suit you the best.
OFFLINE CONSULTATIONS
IN MOSCOW
Moscow, 4-ij Samotechnij building 9
Metro Novoslobodskaya | Mendeleevskaya | Dostoevskaya | Suvorovskaya | Tsvetnoj Bul’var
Metro Novoslobodskaya | Mendeleevskaya | Dostoevskaya | Suvorovskaya | Tsvetnoj Bul’var
About book
At all times, lovers could be separated by force majeure circumstances: wars, epidemics, natural disasters, work or national traditions. Some coped with separation, some broke off relationships, some became the heroes of immortal works of art. However, until now there has not been a single popular science book in Russian language created to support people in long-distance relationships.
This book is like a first aid kit! It contains all necessary information and practical tools to support lovers who are geographically separated for an extended period of time due to various circumstances.
- Is long-distance love a relationship at all?
- How to maintain intimacy without being able to touch each other?
- How to solve financial and everyday issues living in different countries or cities?
- How to build relationships if you have become an international family? What if you have children?
Family psychologist Elena Kabasser and marriage therapist and the Gottman method leading trainer Maria Krivoschapova-Demina have answered all the most difficult questions. They collected everything that modern science knows about love at a distance (and, as it turned out, there is a lot). They have also researched the experience of real couples who successfully survived the difficult stage of long-term separation.
This book clearly and convincingly shows that your love can withstand all challenges, no matter where you are. Because love is your choice to move towards each other.
“People, who by the will of fate, have to be far from each other have missed such a book like air. At a distance everything is seen differently, and although the very essence of the relationship does not change, the tactics and methods of interaction do. It's great to know about this in advance in order not to mess things up.
Loving each other without being able to be physically together is a challenge. For many, it’s about strength. Let this book be a reliable support for those who want to not only maintain, but also strengthen their relationships while being far from each other (yes, this is possible!).” — Alexandra Yakovleva, author and host of the podcast “Psychology with Alexandra Yakovleva”
This book is like a first aid kit! It contains all necessary information and practical tools to support lovers who are geographically separated for an extended period of time due to various circumstances.
- Is long-distance love a relationship at all?
- How to maintain intimacy without being able to touch each other?
- How to solve financial and everyday issues living in different countries or cities?
- How to build relationships if you have become an international family? What if you have children?
Family psychologist Elena Kabasser and marriage therapist and the Gottman method leading trainer Maria Krivoschapova-Demina have answered all the most difficult questions. They collected everything that modern science knows about love at a distance (and, as it turned out, there is a lot). They have also researched the experience of real couples who successfully survived the difficult stage of long-term separation.
This book clearly and convincingly shows that your love can withstand all challenges, no matter where you are. Because love is your choice to move towards each other.
“People, who by the will of fate, have to be far from each other have missed such a book like air. At a distance everything is seen differently, and although the very essence of the relationship does not change, the tactics and methods of interaction do. It's great to know about this in advance in order not to mess things up.
Loving each other without being able to be physically together is a challenge. For many, it’s about strength. Let this book be a reliable support for those who want to not only maintain, but also strengthen their relationships while being far from each other (yes, this is possible!).” — Alexandra Yakovleva, author and host of the podcast “Psychology with Alexandra Yakovleva”
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